Parenting Guide

10 Questions To Foster Positive Discipline

Published by SchoolAdvisor | Jun 25, 2015

Positive discipline is not a myth. It is doable and achievable provided that you are willing to practice some discipline and self-control before shooting questions to your misbehaving child.Here are ten questions from Dr Marshall's website, "Discipline without Stress." It might help you when your brain goes on flight and fight mode and you see your child as a threat to your well being instead of a little human being who needs kind, positive, encouraging words to grow.1. Is this going to get you what you want?2. Does it feel as if we’re moving forward here, or does it feel as if we’re stuck? What would you have to do if you wanted to move forward in this situation?3. What can I do to help you?4. Are you going to let this (situation, person, problem, setback, disappointment etc.) hold you back?5. Are you going to be able to rise above this _______ (situation, disappointment, etc.)?6. Look at _______’s face. How is he/she feeling right now as a result of (what you have done/said)?7. Are you making a friend or pushing a friend away?8. What would a ________ (mature, kind, reliable, responsible, extraordinary) person do now?9. Now that you’ve __________, how can you repair the situation?10.Think, when you _____________ what kind of a relationship are you creating with ________ (me? other kids? the adults in the school?)?Do remember to keep your questions simple,according to the age of your child. Toddlers and pre-schoolers need simple,short, concrete positive words to help them understand the situation.